4 tips for more self-love in everyday life
Self-love has nothing to do with egotism or exaggerated vanity. The term describes the ability to accept and value yourself with all your weaknesses and strengths. This sounds much easier in theory than it is in practice. Instead of accepting and liking ourselves, we usually chase after unattainable ideals and want to become more beautiful, more intelligent or simply better. Society and the media reinforce this pressure and convey the idea that supposed flaws or weaknesses should be hidden. Accepting yourself as you are is sometimes difficult.
Table of contents:
- Take time for yourself and be mindful of yourself
- Be your best friend
- Use social media more mindfully
- Take good care of yourself
How self-love developsThe ability to love ourselves is strongly influenced by our childhood. Those who lacked affection and acceptance from their parents often struggle with the topic of self-love in adulthood. Negative beliefs such as "I'm not good enough" or "I'm not lovable" are the biggest obstacles that stand in the way of our self-love. They originate in our childhood and we carry them - often unconsciously - with us through life. Traumatic events such as bullying also have a negative impact on our self-image. Coaching or therapy can help to change negative beliefs, work through traumas and find more self-acceptance.
In our blog post, we also give you 4 tips on how you can celebrate more self-love in your everyday life.
1. take time for yourself and be mindful of yourselfIf you are constantly distracted by the outside world and rushing through your everyday life, you will lose touch with yourself and your intuition. So pause again and again in your everyday life, pay attention to your feelings and listen to your body. Tension, dissatisfaction, sadness or anger - we have learned to suppress unpleasant feelings and to function. But in the long run, this is at the expense of your needs and health. Mindfulness exercises such as meditation, focusing or yoga can help you to calm down and feel inside yourself. Consciously plan this time with yourself into your everyday life and make it a fixed routine.
2. be your best friendWhen it comes to ourselves, we are usually much more critical than we are of others. Take a look at how you talk to yourself in your everyday life and ask yourself whether you would say the same to a good friend. Treat yourself like someone who is important to you: praise yourself, celebrate yourself, encourage yourself, comfort yourself and be patient with yourself.
Write down all the negative thoughts you think about yourself during the day. Realize that these thoughts shape your reality. Pay attention to negative thoughts and stop yourself immediately if you start talking badly to yourself again. Instead, try to praise yourself for something you have done well.
If the way you think about yourself tends to be negative, a success or strength diary can also help to change this perspective. Take about 5 minutes a day and write down your strengths or what good things you have done today. The exercise will become easier and easier over time and you will notice that you treat yourself more lovingly.
3. use social media more mindfullyComparing yourself to others is perfectly normal. Ideally, it can even be useful and inspire or encourage change. It is only problematic if we constantly compare ourselves or compare ourselves with unattainable ideals. Thanks to social media, we can compare ourselves with the whole world. With old school friends, celebrities, influencers - everyone seems to be more successful or better than us. This has been proven to weaken our self-esteem and make us unhappy. So the next time you're scrolling through social networks, you should consciously ask yourself what content makes you feel bad and why you follow certain accounts.
4. take good care of yourselfAn important part of self-love is self-care. This means taking good care of yourself. Relaxation, exercise, getting enough sleep and a balanced diet form the basis of this. But it also includes treating yourself with love and treating yourself to something. Do you enjoy cooking for friends but find it too much effort for yourself? Do you like to dress up but wear your old jogging bottoms at home? Show yourself that you're worth the effort. Cook yourself something delicious, treat yourself to a (self) massage or find exciting activities that you can do on your own. Self-care doesn't just mean fulfilling all your basic needs sufficiently, but also doing something good for yourself and taking care of yourself.
This also means saying "no" to things or people that are not good for you. Is a friend constantly hurting your feelings or does your work colleague like to make jokes at your expense? Address such things and - if nothing changes - distance yourself from people who are not good for you. In this case, saying no to others is a yes to you.